Many of us struggle with low self-esteem. It can be challenging to raise and maintain. But your self-worth and how you perceive it can have significant impacts on your mental health. Having low self-esteem can induce feelings of inadequacy or shame. While it can be a long and slow process to build self-esteem, we would like to give you some tips to help move that process forward.
1 – Have Daily Pep Talks
Frequently we are much harsher to ourselves than we would be to anyone else. We sometimes blame ourselves for mistakes long past or take the blame for things that weren’t our fault, to begin with.
While you may not say it to yourself in your head, you are just as worthy as anyone else! This can be a hard thing to remind yourself of when your self-esteem is already low. That’s why we recommend having a daily pep talk before you start each day. It can be as simple as thinking aloud while washing your face or having a list of things taped to your coffee pot.
These should be convincing and straightforward things about yourself. Something like, “I did a good job on that presentation today.” Remember, when doing pep talks, your language can be just as important as the content of the pep talk. Saying “I should just make healthy food already” would not be as effective as “I am important, and so is my health, so I plan on making a healthy meal tonight.”
2 – Set Attainable Goals For Yourself
There’s a lot to celebrate about you! We just sometimes tend to notice our shortcomings rather than our achievements. That’s why setting attainable goals is an excellent way to boost your self-esteem.
Take some time to sit down and write down what you want to accomplish. It might be easier to start big and work down from there. For example, you could create your list with: “I want to get my Master’s degree by next year” and could end with “I want to have lunch with my friend tomorrow.”
After making your list, it might be easier to start from the end and go up. By doing your small goal first, you feel accomplishment from finishing them and gain momentum to do your big goals. Once you have completed a goal, you can have a small celebration for yourself. Even if it’s just a simple “Look what I have done!” That can have a significant impact on your view of yourself.
3 – Set aside Me-Time
Some of the things we have mentioned here may seem like more to add to your list of things to do! Sometimes the best thing to do to make yourself feel better is to allow yourself time to be you. Take a step back and watch some TV or hang out with friends. The best part of having good self-esteem is allowing yourself to be yourself.